She was desperate for a roommate and lucky for her, she found one who is moving in this weekend…but she just found out the new roommate is dating her ex. Is she obligated to tell the new roommate about their past? Here’s what she told us:

I have a new roommate that moves in this weekend. I really don’t know her at all but when my old roommate got married and moved out, I was desperate for a new roommate and couldn’t find anyone. I was paying the full rent by myself for the last few months and pretty broke because of it. Then a friend of a friend’s sister just got a new job and wanted to move closer to where she’d be working. So, she is moving in on Saturday. The
only social media account I was able to find for her is an Instagram account and her posted pictures didn’t reveal too much about her other than she seemed pretty nice and normal.

Well, yesterday she posted a few stories and it included a new guy she is dating and she seems to be pretty crazy about him. The problem is that he’s an ex-boyfriend of mine. A guy I broke it off with about a year ago and at the risk of sounding conceited, he didn’t get over me very easily. He tried for months to get me back and as recently as a couple months ago, he told a friend he still had feelings for me.

Do I need to tell my new potential roommate that I know who she is dating and give her a heads up about our history together? I’m afraid it will scare her off and I really need the help with rent. I have zero feelings for this guy, but if I were her, I wouldn’t want to live with someone that my new boyfriend may still have feelings for.

Do I have an obligation to give her a heads up?