This mom found her kid’s journal when she was cleaning her room (guests were staying over, and they needed the room, and her 16-year-old hadn’t cleaned it), when she found her journal. She cracked it open and read it and was SO proud of all the thoughts and creativity she found.

And then she found some stuff that really concerned her; her daughter’s friends were doing things that she – as a parent – would want to know about. And then she found out THIS: her daughter was being PRESSURED by her boyfriend to lose her v-card.

What should she do?!

Here’s the email from mom:

Hi guys,

Looking for some opinions because I don’t really have anyone to talk to about this without really invading my daughter’s privacy.

This past weekend, I was cleaning my 16 year old daughters room. Normally, I’d never do this because she’s 16 and I feel pretty strongly that she should definitely be doing this for herself. However, we had some unexpected house guests coming and they were going to be staying in her room. She had a lot going on over the weekend and had no time to clean it. So, I spent my Saturday doing some deep cleaning in my 16 year old’s room.

While cleaning, I came across a journal. I honestly had no idea she even had a journal. A lot of it was filled with beautiful drawings and song lyrics she had written. I was so proud that I just kept reading. However, about a 3rd of the way through, it became a typical diary. She wrote about all the things going on in her world…most of it pretty innocent until her most recent entries. She started writing about some things that have me concerned. She mentioned several parties that she attended over the summer where there had been drinking and drug use. Much of what she was writing about was how she had been tempted but didn’t participate. However, she felt really left out and lonely at these parties because of it.

She also mentioned that a few of her best friends did participate in these things. I feel compelled to tell the moms of these other girls…some of them are close friends.

I wish drinking and drug use were the only things I had to be concerned about. She also wrote about her boyfriend and contemplating if she was ready to have sex. Apparently, he’s been pressuring her. This was all in one of her last entries which was written several weeks ago. So, I have no idea what has happened since. Is my 16 year old sexually active???

I feel as though these are 2 major issues that I need to jump on but if I talk to her about this she will never trust me again… I had no business reading her personal diary. Then again, Thank God I did. Do I talk to her? Do I talk to her friends’ mothers? Do I have the right to have read her diary?

Would you ever read your kid’s journal?

— The Bert Show (@TheBertShow) August 28, 2019