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Our listener is convience her boyfriend’s dad tried to hit on her MARRIED mother. Her boyfriend’s dad invited her mother, and only her to help him decorate his house.
Should she wan her mother or just see what happens?
Here’s her email:
I could use some urgent opinions so if you aren’t able to read this and get the advice of your other listeners, any chance you could just write back and tell me what you think?
So, last week, my parents and my boyfriend’s dad met for the first time. His parents are divorced and my mom told me to invite him to thanksgiving so that they could meet him and so that he wouldn’t spend the holiday alone. I was a bit nervous as is normal the first time parents meet, but also because I had only met his dad one other time. Well, at first things seemed to be fine. Everyone was getting along and they all seemed to have a lot in common. They shared stories of their younger years and started playing old music. It all seemed great. However, they were all drinking more than we were. Towards the end of the evening, I started to get uncomfortable because his dad seemed to be getting a bit to flirty with my mom. My dad had enough to drink that he was oblivious and half asleep. My mom didn’t seem to realize he was being flirty because she didn’t seem to be creeped out, but also didn’t reciprocate. It just seemed like his tone of voice changed, he’d find reasons to touch her or take selfies with her…it was odd. It definitely made me uncomfortable but the evening ended, we drove him home, and I just brushed it off and assumed he had too much to drink and maybe it wasn’t as big of a deal.
Well, last night, my mom texted me to tell me she was going to his house tomorrow (Tuesday) night to help him decorate for Christmas. She said he had been so complimentary of her Christmas decor and that he was having an office Christmas party Friday night and didn’t have any decorations or even a tree up. She had agreed to help him tomorrow night and over the next few days if necessary. My mom just seems so proud that someone would ask for her decorating help. However, I’m skeptical. I know he does have a Christmas party Friday, but I don’t like the idea of my mom going there alone. I know she’s a grown woman but I can’t imagine the drama in my world if he does try something with my mom.
Do I say something to my boyfriend? If I’m overreacting, I’ve basically accused his dad of hitting on a married woman. If I say something to my mom and I’m wrong, I’ve created an awkward situation with my potential future father-in-law. I really wish I could just offer to help and go with her but I’m out of town for work and not back until Friday. Or, do I just stay out of it,hope that I’m wrong and that I don’t get a phone call from my mom upset that my boyfriend’s dad made a move on her?
Thanks again for any advice at all.
