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She’s been happily married for eight years and has two wonderful kids. However, a new guy started at her job, and she thinks he’s her SOULMATE!
There is a company trip coming up, and she doesn’t know what to do. She doesn’t trust herself at all. So should she go on the trip or risk her job, or skip it?
Here’s her email:
I know most of you on the show are married or have been married and I would love your advice on how you would handle my current situation. I have been married for 8 years and we have 2 wonderful kids. For the most part, I’d say we are happily married. We rarely fight and we seem to be a great team. I love my husband and I know he loves me. However, I would not say he is my “soulmate” and I also would never describe our relationship as full of passion but up until now, it seems to be just fine with both of us.
Well, a few months ago a new guy started at work. I spend a lot of time with him and at the risk of sounding dramatic, if there is such a thing as a soulmate, I think he could be it. If I had met him 10 years earlier, I would have never given my husband a 2nd look. We just click on so many levels and there is so much chemistry between us. I know the attraction is mutual and at times it seems that both of us are trying really hard to remain professional. Every once in a while, things will get a bit flirty and it is almost awkward when one realizes it and quickly resets things to a more professional tone. So, let me be clear, aside from this extreme mutual attraction, we have never done anything wrong or inappropriate.
About 4 of us are going out of town this weekend to attend a training workshop. He is one of the 4. I’d like to say I completely trust myself and my intention is to keep my distance. But part of me feels like the right thing to do is cancel. However, that would put my job in jeopardy. I also don’t think it’s fair to my employer that my dedication to the job is limited because of my personal attraction to a coworker.
So, as a married woman who has vowed to put my marriage and family above anything else, do I have an obligation to remove myself from temptation? Should I cancel this trip at the last minute and am I obligated to quit my job all together?
